Stop here, all of you!
I understand that some topics touch us rather deeply, and so we find it hard to accept that somebody else might have a different approach or even an opposing opinion. Dulcemio, MRoth and Sweetgrass, as far as I have understood what has been said so far I very much doubt that you are really worlds apart from each other. I don't really see a reason for you to be at odds with each other.
But if I cannot attenuate your anger maybe you can have a go at me instead?
Roughly said, the difference between men's colognes and ladies' fragrances is that between good and bad perfume. (I would exclude some classic style florals that unfortuately only few women have the guts to wear).
Mango juice, peach jam, orange marmalade, chocolate, rose water, jasmine tea, almond milk, cotton candy and vanilla custard - what would you think about such a diet? Vanilla ice cream is nice but if it was the only food you would soon dream about a decent steak. For some reason, women are supposed to wear all day long as a perfume what nobody could stand for long if it was something to eat.
Perfumery is not about women's lib but very much about men's lib. Perfumes for men came a long way from Paul Parquet's classic fougère to today's diversity. I think the classic fougère accord is sharp, not really pleasant and it really hurts. It perfectly fits to the generation of misguided, neurotic and guilty feeling men who enthusiastically slaughtered each other in WWI. Today, we have all kinds of gents' colognes to chose from. No matter how sweetish some of them are - even Gaultier's Le Mâle and Fleur du Mâle contain some "steak".
IMHO, the question whether one should refer to a perfume as masculine or feminine and if so, could this possibly discriminate against some people or support very questionable traditional gender roles - falls short of this topic. I suppose most ladies who prefer gents' or unisex colognes don't bother much about gender policy. They simply want some "steak". The way that the idea of femininity is expressed in so many ladies' perfumes is nauseating.
It's a man's world, also in perfumery!