Baptizing my son in a few weeks and looking for something classy but not overpowering that will fit the occasion. Evening, indoors, formal (black tie), late winter/early spring. My shortlist is currently: 
Reflection 45 , 
Amyris Homme Extrait de Parfum , 
Burlington 1819
But I'm open to any and all suggestions up to $500. TIA!
Without any info as to what sort of frags you like, and given that the ones in your shortlist are quite different from one another, the first recommendation I can offer is, for sure, "New York Intense | Parfums de Nicolaï", that's the first fragrance that comes to mind when hearing classy and black tie.
That said, knowing if you're looking for specific notes, or things close to a specific fragrance, or members of a fragrance family, would make it easier to give you meaningful suggestions.
Also, given your budget, if you have something in mind already I'd just buy a few samples from an online store carrying niche frags and take my time sampling them, there's really no substitute for that.
I think the shortlist fragrances are pretty similar in what they do, even if they don’t share a lot of notes. Basically what I’m looking for is a modern clean and fresh woody scent built around something like cedar or sandalwood. Maybe some citrus/neroli to amp up the “clean” effect, but not enough to overpower the woods. Also something that has a unique DNA that I can make an association with rather than something like an Aventus clone, etc. I also posted this in a Facebook group and got suggested 
Silver Mountain Water which is also a strong contender now.
My plan is to get samples, either online or in store but I want to see if there’s any suggestions people have that I can sample as well. I definitely won’t buy something like this blind. Thanks for the suggestion @Johnjssmith!
